Dr. Bob (Robert J. Rubel, PhD) and The Goddess Indigo

Robert J. Rubel, PhD and Veronica M. Petterson (2020) 

Do you listen to respond or listen to understand? Do you listen in neutral and then frame your response to match the situation?

While many books are written about how to get your point across, good communication is about transmitting and receiving messages as close as possible to what the speaker intended to say. This extends beyond simply understanding their spoken words. Understanding includes the ability to interpret body language, vocal tone, and sentence inflection. It also includes understanding your own biases and the likely biases of the speaker.

This book is a roadmap to becoming an effective communicator. We give you the tools, the rest is up to you.

Robert J. (Dr. Bob) Rubel, PhD and The Goddess Indigo (2020)

This book deconstructs a BDSM scene and rebuilds it component by component as we explain why you do what you do in a scene—and how to do it intentionally and reliably to achieve extraordinary, consistent results. 

By the time you have learned to implement this material, your toys will have become extensions of your will. You will know how to speak the physical language (in addition to the verbal language) of connection. With practice and application, these skills will energize your play and elevate it from a mundane to a transcendent experience. 

We provide a recipe of sorts; a formula for reliably producing magical play scenes.

Robert J. (Dr. Bob) Rubel, PhD and M. Jen Fairfield

This is not a book that explains what BDSM is, but rather what BDSM is all about. It enables someone with zero BDSM experience to walk confidently into their first munch, club meeting, or play party. This is also a book for people who have been involved in the community with an interest in understanding how the puzzle pieces fit together. This book provides about as much BDSM knowledge as someone who has been actively in the public scene for about five years. [Robert J. Rubel, PhD and M. Jen Fairfield]

Robert J. (Dr. Bob) Rubel, PhD and M. Jen Fairfield 

This book is about relationships. Adventuresome relationships. Relationships that are not vanilla (traditional relationships as practiced by the average couple you’d meet at a baseball game). BDSM relationships differ from vanilla relationships in two specific ways: 

* first, they involve a power-imbalanced structure in which one person is clearly in charge, and the other is clearly following;

* second, the kind of sex that adventuresome folk practice is, well, not vanilla. 

This book speaks to those starting out in BDSM and those already involved with someone in a BDSM-based relationship and will save each of you a lot of heartache, frustration, and anger. [Robert J. Rubel, PhD and M. Jen Fairfield]

Robert J. (Dr. Bob) Rubel, PhD and M. Jen Fairfield 

This is the first book in a series devoted to developing mastery in a Master/slave dynamic. It addresses certain cautionary considerations of potential Masters and potential slaves. It provides important tips and tools for building a firm M/s relationship. It shares the authors’ framework for distinguishing between D/s and M/s relationships, namely that: (i) D/s is more about power exchange while M/s is more about authority transfer; and (ii) D/s is more about where you fall on the scale of dominance and submission while M/s is more about the roles you each play. Within this framework, D/s and M/s have different rules of engagement, and the authors share their understanding of the most critical of these rules. 

Robert J. (Dr. Bob) Rubel, PhD and M. Jen Fairfield 

This is an advanced Master/slave book. This is a "content-heavy" book written for readers with very strong core values who have 5+ years of collective relationship experience in either M/s or committed D/s dynamics. It is intended for people who know a lot about a lot and are open to thinking about what they know in a different way. Fundamentally, readers must understand the differences between D/s and M/s in order to comfortably absorb the content. Unlike the fictional world of Masters and slaves, this book discusses the very real challenges and opportunities available to long-term M/s couples. It explains how strong leaders can combine with strong supportive followers to create a magical relationship. The authors draw upon their own extensive personal experience, as well as the experiences and views of literally hundreds of others who identify as M/s as shared during conference presentations and one-on-one discussions

Robert J. (Dr. Bob) Rubel, PhD and M. Jen Fairfield 

 This book demonstrates how to develop protocols within your relationship that strengthen your purpose, focus and intent. It provides countless tips and techniques for Masters to clarify how they, themselves, want to be served. Successful protocols depend upon closely examining the kind of relationship you wish, identifying the kinds of service Master actually wants and the level of service slave can actually deliver. In that light, this book is a guided exercise in clarifying the intent of your relationship. In addition, the book is a map for creating a written protocol manual documenting rules of service combined with expected behavior. It incorporates, by way of example, much of the protocol manual from the authors’ own M/s relationship, illustrating the translation of one Master’s wishes into elegant service by the slave.